This is not the stuff that makes headlines, given the uniformly bad news on the economic, labor and home repossession fronts early in 2009.
It is hugely interesting that the CIS has disclosed that Filipina brides rank in the top two among long-distance relationships that culminated in marriage with Americans.
No prizes for guessing that the other popular group traipsed over from south of the Rio Grande.
Can it really be true love?
Being the pragmatic people that we are, you have to ask yourself, “Is it true love?” Or are Filipina bride-hopefuls just one more in a multitude of avaricious seekers for the almighty buck, green card and blue passport?
C’mon now, a man who has been around the singles bar scene long enough ought to be canny enough to tell.
Is the lady really interested in you?
Or is she more likely to coo over your Hydrogen 7 Beamer and equity portfolio?
Ask Reginald Lewis, first African-American billionaire and Chairman of Beatrice Foods after a little leveraged buyout exercise. He took a Filipina bride, one Loida Nicolas, a summa cum laude back in the Philippines and member of the New York bar.
Loida not only had the business acumen to take over the helm of Beatrice Foods after Reginald’s untimely death, she memorialized him by authoring “Why Should White Guys Have All the Fun?” Greater love than this, no woman has.
In turn, Kenneth Natori of New York chose for his Filipina bride Josie Natori, erstwhile stockbroker at Bache and Merrill Lynch. If the name sounds familiar to the women in your family, that’s because Josie proved herself not only the most devoted of brides but a genuine star in the NYC fashion firmament with a long-famous line of lingerie and loungewear.
How do we meet a Filipina?
The rest of us mere mortals are apprehensive about hooking up online.
Will the whole thing be a letdown? Lucky thing we can cut down the odds with some help from Web cams and online photo galleries.
And you can see from the eye contact and shy smiles whether you have something to look forward to when next you meet. On another free evening perhaps? Or a lazy weekend? When next you fly to Asia on business?
Assuming you are already over your commitment phobia, there’s nothing for it but to bite the bullet and have that Philippine vacation you are convinced you deserve.
There is simply no substitute for meeting the lady of your desires to check things out, see if there is a connection that might carry the two of you a long way.
A trip to the Philippines?
Be forewarned, however, that your trip to the Philippines will be relaxing only because the pace of life is slow.
“Mañana”, it can keep till tomorrow, is a quaint carryover from their erstwhile Spanish masters. An 8:00 A.M. appointment can mean anything till noon.
Like any developing economy, the country has its share of tensions and contradictions. You are bound to be floored by grinding poverty and the despair of an underclass unable to pull itself out of a miserable existence.
Corruption is everywhere, shades of Gov. Bogdanovich! Most expats doing business there say it’s gotten a whole lot better though.
Scratch below the surface of a Filipino, however and you find a placid, cheerful disposition.
Everywhere you go in the archipelago, plain folk will call you “Joe” in honor of the G.I’s who liberated the Philippines from the Japanese half a century ago.
If your fiancée’s family is in the countryside, they will hold a feast in your honor, ply you into a stupor with drink (San Miguel beer is superb, but so is a native firewater that resembles pretty good raw rum) and vie to show you the sights. It is a gracious hospitality that expects nothing in return but your happy nod that you’re having a fine ol’ time.
No wonder not a few fellow Americans and Aussies not to mention Europeans, have decided to immerse themselves in the extended families of their in-laws and live there for the rest of their lives.
But those are retirees and you have a whole career ahead of you. So it’s back home to the States with your shy and soft-spoken Filipina bride. What do you have to lose but a lifetime of friendship and steadfast family life?
Why don’t you see who you might make a connection with online.
Cebuanas is a dating site where Filipinos can meet foreign men.
Filipina Heart is another great Filipina dating and personals site for single Filipina men and women seeking dating, love and friendship.