Problems in Philippine Paradise
by Harry Olson
(Plano,Illinois 60545 US)
Hello, my name is Harry.
I have been here in the Philippines, since October 17th 2010.
Unfortunately I have had much misfortune since I arrived. I live in Valencia now and live off my pension. My pension is about US$1,200 per month.
I thought I could live on about US$700 per month, but I'm broke about the 15th or 20th of every month.
Also, what is the proper response from my girl-friend to her relatives?
To her they always come first.
Response from Brett:
I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune and also about you not being able to survive on your monthly pension.
Everyone is different, especially with there spending habits. I'm unsure what you spend your money on or who, so unless you keep a track of your expenditure, I can understand how it can get out of control.
As you do not say where you spend your pension, I really cannot comment on whether it is enough to live on or not. But usually you should be able to live on US$1200 a month, frugally yes, but you should not be running out of money, before your next pension deposit.
Girlfriends and there relatives….hmmmm. This is a loaded question with so many responses I’m not sure where to start.
As you would know the Philippine family unit is very close, with the children looking after the parents and family unit once they are unable to work and before.
For every email I receive about a girlfriend giving all of her boyfriends or husbands money to her family, I also receive plenty more about how they only spend and look after their boyfriend or husband.
Some Philippine families put a lot of pressure on the children to provide for them, thinking, incorrectly, that all white people are rich!
You need to communicate with your girlfriend and find out what she expects from your relationship, what you expect from your relationship and come to an agreement that works for you both. Do remember it is your money.
I wish you well.